Mirror - Vol. 39, No. 22 - March 19, 2014

              THE MIRROR Student newspaper Week of March 19,2014 Vol. 39, Iss. 22
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Harlan Cohen shares joyful and painful experiences with love
By Christina Mowry
Assistiant News Editor
Standing confidently on the stage in
the Barone Campus Center, Harlan Cohen
shared both his joyful and painful experi-ences
with love and advice to the attentive
students in the audience.
"I really have loved women my whole
life ... and women have not loved me," said
Cohen.
Cohen, a New York Times best-selling
author and public speaker, spoke on cam-pus
Wednesday, March 12. Fairfield Univer-sity's
Student Association planned the event,
which was called "Five Steps to Finding the
Love of Your Life." In addition to providing
five steps, Cohen also answered questions
students texted to him.
Cohen began by saying that the average
person's fear of rejection is what stops them
from taking risks. He mentioned that society
makes it much more difficult than it actually
is and that we are taught that "sharing our
feelings is stupid."
"We're all defective," Cohen said. He re-flected
on his experiences in middle school
where he was unsuccessful with girls, noting
a time when a girl denied him solely because
she thought he was too fat. After that, he felt
insecure and pointed out that making fun of
someone who rejected you is a coping mech-anism.
"Between 13 and 18, the game is to make
everyone feel like sh-- so we feel like more,"
said Cohen.
Cohen described how it is necessary for
people to be comfortable with themselves
physically, emotionally and spiritually. He
assured audience members that their differ-ences
make them unique so embrace them.
Cohen also gave students a phone num-ber
to anonymously text with questions,
which he answered periodically through-out
the talk. Questions ranged from how to
overcome social awkwardness to how to turn
a consistent hook up into a relationship. To
that question, Cohen advised the anonymous
student to move on.
"He's just a drunk crutch ... It's not gonna
help you to find scmething substantial and
good ... There's probably someone you can
meet during the day that would want to get
drunk and have sex with you, and then be so-ber
with you and do fun things," said Cohen.
Touching upon the "friend zone" often
heard of in college, Cohen mentioned that it
is actually a good thing. He described how
the friend zone is actually a "waiting room"
that shouldn't be looked upon as a negative.
"A lot of times when someone friend
zones you it isn't about you being undesir-able,
it's about them not being in a place
where they can have the kind of relationship
that you deserve to have with that person,"
said Cohen.
Cohen challenged the single people in
the audience to tell someone they find attrac-tive
how they really feel. Being honest, Co-hen
told the audience that millions of people
won't want them, but there will also be thou-sands
of people who truly do.
Changing subjects, Cohen talked about
the reality of depression and how dating
can be a contributor. He mentioned his own
feelings of depression and recognized that it
happens to students as well. Reflecting on the
suicide of University of Pennsylvania student
Madison Holleran earlier this year, Cohen
urged the audience to "be patient" because
READ COHEN ON PAGE 2
Atdhe Trepca / The Mirror
Dr. Michael Serazio, assistant communication professor and Dr. Robin Crabtree, dean of the College of Arts and Sciences, ask questions to
Ronan Farrow, host of Ronan Farrow Daily on MSNBC.
A millennial voice talks global issues
By Atdhe Trepca
Assistant News Editor
"Get angry, damn it," said Ronan
Farrow, an activist, MSNBC TV host
and recent speaker at the Regina A.
Quick Center of the Arts.
During his speech on March 18,
Farrow spoke openly about his expe-rience
with revolutions all over the
world. Through the stories he has writ-ten
on the protests in Sudan, Venezu-ela
and other countries, Farrow went
in depth on the dichotomy between
revolutions in the Western Hemi-sphere
and in other parts of the world.
"Even though we don't always feel
it every day because we are so much in
our own prisons of success and afflu-ence,
we have the opportunity to speak
out and we don't have to resort to kill-ing
people to do it," Farrow said.
ernment-allied militias of Sudan in an
attempt to ethnically cleanse the area.
The young man traveled through
the desert until the first contact he
\bur friends will get mad, your relatives will get mad,
your job will get mad. Well, you know what? Decide
what's worth it, because we need more honesty and
authenticity.
- Ronan Farrow, host of Ronan Farrow Daily
Farrow also recounted an expe-rience
in the Darfur region of Sudan
where he met a 17-year-old protester
whose family was murdered by gov-had
with a human was a rebel force
in Darfur, where Farrow found him.
Farrow said that when he saw him, he
was "thrusting his machine gun up in
the air."
"I said 'What are you doing? Why
more violence after everything you've
been through?' He said 'It's the only
way I have to be heard,'" Farrow said.
Farrow contrasts this story with
the ease and ability millennials have
to cause change and revolution within
their community.
He claimed that with the use of
social networking, todays youth all
have the opportunity to be "impolite"
with few consequences, other than the
possibility of angering people.
"Your friends will get mad, your
relatives will get mad, your job will get
READ FARROW ON PAGE 2
Senior
Week
will not
be dry
By Patrick Kiernan
Sports Editor
The final highlight of every
graduating class takes place in the
week between the end of finals
and commencement. Senior Week
offers seniors the opportunity
to enjoy friends, reflect on their
time together and celebrate their
accomplishments as they prepare
for life after college.
However, past incidents have
led to controversy surrounding the
week-long event. Many believe these
incidents have led to the question of
the events being altered into a dry
event.
"These rumors are false,"
said Colleen Wilson, program
coordinator in the department of
student programs and leadership
development. "Senior Week will
continue to include both alcoholic
and non-alcoholic beverages."
The tragic death of Deandre
Lawton '13 at the end of last year's
Senior Week shook many and led
to questions about the future of
this event. However, according to
Wilson, this incident did not impact
any changes that have been made
for Senior Week 2014.
When discussing the possibility
of a change to a dry event in years to
come, Wilson said that she does not
see it happening. Rather, changes
are being made to make Senior
Week safer for students.
"We are reminding seniors
to be mindful of the Fairfield
University student code of conduct
READ SENIOR ON PAGE 4
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